Would you give your partner a holiday or hall pass from your relationship? Would you want such a holiday for yourself? A holiday or hall pass would provide you or your partner permission to have a brief sexual encounter with someone you choose with no penalty.
Did that get you thinking?
Let’s face it. After several year in a monogamous relationship, people tend to start looking at other people. You may love and appreciate your partner more than the day you married, but the sight of an attractive different person gets your attention. It may start while you watch movies or television shows, then go forward to in-person looks. Even if you have an attractive partner, over time other people get your attention. This attention may be momentary or become an obsession. Wives have long criticized their husband for looking at other women who caught their attention. The wife did not like another woman grasping the attention of her husband.
Even if you like steak, you do not want it every meal for a week or more. Forgive the comparison, but we may enjoy the romance and passion of our partner for a long time. Eventually there comes a day when your attention, even if very briefly, turns to a person you see. This does not mean you do not love your partner. It just indicates your humanity. In reality, I am sure husband, boyfriends, wives and girlfriends look at attractive people also.
In reality, more couples and people engage in extra connections than in years past. People have a more open and liberal view of sex today.
Some men now openly allow and encourage their wife or girlfriend to have a boyfriend or brief encounter. Some men enjoy the idea or even watching their lady having sex with another man. That other man or woman is a fantasy they have. If a woman wants a trist, the person has little similarity to their current partner. Often the female wants a man with a nicer body, a larger “manhood” and different physical appearance. Why would you want an encounter with someone like your current partner? As men grow older, they tend to accept and embrace this for their female partner.
Women often accept their male partner having a sexual encounter with another person. Men can usually have sex with no romance. Women usually need some romantic connection to enjoy sex with a man. Women accept a man wanting and needing extra. As well, women sometimes lack the sexual desire to meet the desire of the man in their relationship. Often a wife will accept her husband having an encounter, but does not want to know about it. One wife told me she just expected her husband to have an occasional sexual encounter and that was okay with her as long as he did not tell her.
Over several years the occasional look at another person grows into more. The first several months or even years your attention and passion focuses on your partner. Eventually you may want to taste something else. Should you?
A hall pass might develop in this manner.
In a few days we will add two additional posts about a hall pass. We examine the positives, negatives, and how to make it work.